“We have decided to move forward without you.”

That was one year ago today. For five weeks after that, I had to remain quiet, concealing the truth from people that I had asked to trust me for over ten years. On the first anniversary of getting fired, I wrote a reflection on what I've learned.

1. I thought one organization was the vehicle for my purpose. But, my purpose is bigger than I thought. I continue to find ways to support young people in being given the room and the support to show us all how amazing they can be.

2. Insecurity is sneaky. It shows up in surprising and powerful ways.

3. I’ve learned a lot about trauma, anxiety, and the human body. This incredibly important work is just beginning, and I hope it becomes more mainstream.

4. Consulting on various projects allows me to learn a lot!

5. The Quakers would say to “let your life speak,” and I need to lean into that. Too often, I feel like I have so much to say. But, rarely does it need to be said.

6. As with any trauma, some people show up in ways that are caring and thoughtful. Some people disappear. You’ll be surprised who falls into which group.

7. There are many ways to contribute.

8. When you can’t share the story, people will make one up. Whether they like you or not, they never get the story right.

9. I was always going to be okay. The hardest part was that I couldn’t prevent harm experienced by others.

10. The young people continue to sustain me. They check in. They’ve become colleagues. They share their successes and seek support when struggling. When I wondered who I was without a job I let define me, they made clear that I’m still Mr. Mark.

Life will continue to be a teacher, as will the young people I am honored to know. I’ll do my best to be a good student. I know I have much left to learn.